DEAR ABBY: My husband and I had a child proper across the time my father remarried. I didn’t know my new stepmother very nicely when she began giving me parenting recommendation. The problem is, her convictions usually are not in step with mine and likewise battle with the recommendation from the CDC or the American Academy of Pediatrics. Some examples: She insists breastfeeding is stunting the newborn’s progress (she’s tremendous), that infants ought to be put to mattress face-down (harmful) and that holding a child in a automobile is simply pretty much as good as a automobile seat (?!). I do my finest to smile, nod and go about my enterprise, however she’s actually pushy and retains saying she was a nurse, so she is aware of what she’s speaking about.
After listening to about that nursing expertise one too many occasions, I requested her son about it, and it seems she earned a nursing assistant diploma through correspondence and failed twice earlier than barely passing. She by no means labored as a nurse.
Being direct together with her hasn’t helped. Speaking to Dad hasn’t helped (they’re newlyweds). Strolling away doesn’t assist — she follows me. What alternative do I’ve, in need of banning her from my home (or coming to blows, which might be efficient, however not the best way I need to go)? — OPPOSED IN OHIO
DEAR OPPOSED: As a result of Dad refuses to just accept that his bride has misrepresented herself, pray he stays in good well being and doesn’t give her his energy of lawyer for well being care. As to her undesirable and incorrect recommendation on childcare, hear, smile sweetly and train your choice as a mom to not comply with it. Proceed breastfeeding, place your toddler within the crib as you will have been instructed by dependable sources and by no means, ever, let her maintain the newborn whereas she’s within the automobile. It’s towards the legislation and it may very well be deadly.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been married to my husband, “Mark,” for 13 years. Throughout this time, I’ve realized that marrying him was a mistake. His mother and father didn’t have a wholesome marriage, and I do know he doesn’t know what love is. His dad typically traveled for work and saved a mistress on the facet. My mother-in-law stayed within the marriage anyway.
Mark could be very self-centered. I snore. Once I do, my husband will wake me up both by a loud noise, plugging my nostril or shaking me. He says he can’t sleep after I snore. I urged he use earbuds like he does when he listens to music. His ex-wife additionally stated he was troublesome to be married to. I’m 59 and assured sufficient to be by myself. Your ideas? — READY FOR CHANGE IN MICHIGAN
DEAR READY: As a result of you will have felt practically from the outset of your 13-year marriage that it was a mistake, I’m pondering it’s time you focus on this with an lawyer who can clarify what a divorce would imply to your monetary future. Mark’s ex-wife could have been heading in the right direction when she walked out.
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also referred to as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.